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Tuesday, February 22, 2005

Bringin' it on!

by Maria Eleanor Elape Valeros
September 20, 2004; posted at www.thefreeman.com

Was supposed to be cheering in this column for JM Cobarrubias (former The Probe Team reporter), Avi Siwa and Jigs Mayuga—three young, smart, honest and courageous people who fought for their space in space—as they fully anchor Channel 7’s Out. It’s the first TV magazine show that showcases the lifestyle of gays, lesbians and the like. Pilot telecast was last 9/11 at 11pm.

Out in the box, I would also want to talk about how the program has touched me and, finally, convinced me to come out in the open and confirm to the whole wide world I’m a swinger. Only a few people know this, those I’m pretty comfortable with (excluding my family). I know this would hurt them, but keeping this, for too long now, in the box even cuts so, so, so deeply.

But, voila out also in my other box – yes, my email box – is a note that read: “Hi! I read The Freeman on a certain day and happened to reach a page in the Lifestyle section. It’s a youth page and I saw your email ad at the end. I thought of contributing ‘Bringin’ it on!’ Thank you and God bless! - Cris Evert Berdin Lato evert17_up@yahoo.com.

Thanks Cris for crankin’ up my addy. Gotta set aside the swinging stuff first and give my readers a piece of your beautiful mind:“School pressures and problems? Yes, a truly stale topic but indeed mirrors the current dilemma of students. As a student, one gets to face countless pressures and interminable problems. Added to all these is the big problem of time management. What type of school pressures and problems are you encountering? Read and see if you can change that doomed fate.

When you feel that Mr. Know-It-All or Ms. Blah-Blah doesn’t like you, never accept the treatment. Fight! Fighting doesn’t mean that you have to use your hands or your physical prowess. Go back to how the Karate Kid was trained: “To subdue the enemy without physical fighting is the highest skill.”Use your talents, your intelligence. Show the world what you’ve got. Outplay. Outwit.

Outlast. For instance, if he’s giving you low marks in your speech class even if you’re doing good, show him more of that debater mouth or express that Aristotle mind. Remember to prepare well. One more thing: Be cautious of what you’re saying and how you say it. Too much bluffing may be the antithesis to your destined success.

“I got a low score in an exam, am I dumb?” Many ask this question. The answer is, of course, you’re not. Maybe you weren’t that prepared for the examination. Think about what you did the night before the exam. Did you go out with your friends instead of doing the much-needed studying? If that’s the case, better change the attitude.

Scoring low in an exam does not mean you’re dumb. It may be connected to some other “disabilities”. Oh well, nobody’s perfect as they say. But frequent low scores are indicative of something serious. Do watch out!
If in any case you are the best student in class, never depend on the title. If you do, you might wake up one day losing that crown.

Plenty of people out there are willing to give a good grab. Study even more! Read more books and interact with people. For sure, you’ll get to learn plenty of things, for always people will have their own, interesting stories. Being on topnotch is not an assurance that you’re going to be the best in everything.

You think popular kiddos are the best? You’re definitely wrong. You can be better than them. Know your talents. Explore your individuality. Ask yourself and discover which area are you in tune. You might be a good dancer, gifted with that songbird voice or might have that Hollywood-quality acting prowess. What are glee clubs, dance troupes and theater groups for without people like you?

Your reaction, research, position, and concept papers are all due tomorrow and you haven’t started typing in even your name? What’s the matter? Why not create a timetable? This will guide you in doing the tasks that you ought to do. For instance, you might want to study Biology from 4:00 to 6:00 in the evening, take your dinner at 6:15 and type you reaction paper by 7:00. This way, you’re up to being organized.

What’s more you’ll get to pass your papers on time without asking your dear instructors to extend another deadliest deadline.

If all else fails, why not try to relax for a while and give yourself a break. Eat a sumptuous meal, treat yourself to a heart-warming movie, or go out on a date (if you can get one). You just have to loosen up sometimes. Don’t be too hard on yourself. That might just be one reason why you’re facing and encountering all those pressures and problems.

The key to success is not just hard work. Being happy in what you’re doing is another ingredient. Put your heart in whatever you do. Couple that with your mental acumen and you’re off to beat those pressures and problems. Bring it on guys and gals and you’ll surely touch the sky!

(Hiyah, young people! Whuzz the hush-hush over skate and skim boarding, and “your” other thingie, huh? Give me a clue. Drop your contributions at wild_pechay@yahoo.com. Celebrate your space in space.)